Today the county social worker came out for her normal visit with the boys. With this visit came a big blow to the boys. She came to tell them that their biological mom’s rights have been terminated and the county is not able to get a hold of her to set up a goodbye visit.
Tonight as I was tucking Nathan into bed we were talking about his mom. He said he was mad at the judge, and as he was saying this he took apart one of his action figures. I did my best to sympathize with him on how he was feeling, but all I wanted to do was to take his pain away. No child should ever have to go through what Nathan and Joshua are going through.
Nathan starting to ask about death and dying and what happens to our bodies when we die. I explained to him that if a person has asked for forgiveness that the person’s spirit leaves their body and they go to heaven.
He then broke my heart and asked me what if his mom forgets about him. I told him that a mother does not forget about her children. I told him about my daughter whom I gave up for adoption when I was 19 years old. I explained to him that I was not in a place in my life to care for a child the way that a child deserves and I found a family that could give her everything she needs and wants. I told him that I think about her everyday; and that I am sure that his mom thinks of him and Joshua every day too. I told him that we need to give this to God and pray for his mom. We need to ask God to surround her with positive people that will help her and lift her up and show her God’s unconditional love. He asked me to pray for her, which I did. Seeing a child break down crying because of his biological mom’s inability to care for them is the hardest think I have had to do since they came to live with us.
Nathan did have some insight as to why his mom cannot be found. He said she is probably mad, upset and embarrassed. He is only ten years old and showed so much maturity today. No child should have to grow up as fast as he has.
Several times during the day both Nathan and Joshua come up to me and ask what they can do around the house to help me. They both love to help with the housework, even cleaning their bathroom. While most parents complain that get them to even pick up their rooms, I have to tell our boys to go be kids, go get dirty and play.
Rich and I thank each and everyone for their continued prayers. If you received a text from me today asking you to pray for us, thank you so much. I felt the Holy Spirit’s presence in our home today, please keep praying for us.
God Bless,
Rich and Lori Van Roo
